My childhood, even my early adult life, never included the phrase "I like myself"; that is a pity, as we all need to appreciate us for who we are and work on making ourselves better every day. It's difficult, but we should not depend on others to determine our worth, that comes from inside.
Years ago, a friend went to pre-marriage counseling. At this session the clergy asked the couple why they were getting married, my friend piped up with "Well I like him"; THAT was a great answer! Love can be affected by mood, whims, outside influences, even scents. But to like someone means you find a common ground with that person and want to be friends. True love grows from friendship, lust grows from physical urges. We need to learn the difference.
When a person decides they like themselves, that means they are at peace with who they are. If you do not however like yourself, you need to do some introspective searching and discover the reason for this.
I suggest a list of positives and negative statements you feel about yourself and why you feel each statement is in its category. If you have negatives about yourself, work on how you can amend your behavior or correct the flaw you perceive. Talk with your true friends and discuss your feelings, you may find you are being unduly harsh in yourself or may not be looking at the situation with full vision. We can be very hard on ourselves, but remember if you do not like yourself, you will find fault in all situations and people and be very unhappy. We have this one life, we have a great opportunity to influence people and lives around us, do so in a positive way making the world a better place now and for when we are gone.
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